20 Ways to Spice Up Your Next Date Night
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Thursday, September 24, 2009
Tuesday, September 15, 2009
Ok, I really do not know what to do! I am not really worried about myself but I am super concerned about my kids. I really don’t know what to believe.
If you don't get the shot, what are the chances that you'll get sick? My kids always get a cold or the flu every winter. My daughter has Asthma and her colds can be really bad meaning an Asthma attack is on the way and here comes an Emergency Room visit. Of course my greatest fear is what if I do not get them the shot and they die? I know that is the worst case but hell I have to think about it. I know I could not live with that guilt.
If you do get the shot, will the vaccine be safe and effective? Ok, we are telling almost everybody to go get this shot. This is still a fairly new virus and we have not really researched this very long. What if this shot has some really bad side effects in the long run?
Swine flu, or H1N1, is already present in the area and probably will infect greater numbers of people as the weather turns cooler.
The federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reported last week that 8,843 people have been hospitalized nationwide by the disease. The number of U.S. deaths stands at 556, the CDC said.
The World Health Organization describes the H1N1 virus as the dominant flu strain in most parts of the world. And it has said that it produces a "mild illness" in most patients.
So are you going to get the shot for yourself and your kids?
Posted by Dmitri at 7:53 PM
Saturday, September 5, 2009
I know I may be walking on thin ice on this one but what the hell. I had a conversation last night over dinner with a family we use to go to church with. He is a Pastor and I like him and I think he is honest. However we talked about the bad Pastors and so I feel I should say how I feel about this matter. Don’t get me wrong. I am no saint and have no desire to become a Pastor however I do believe you should not play with God. Here are three things that might help you tell if your Pastor is suspect!
Beware when your pastor ...
1. Is overly concerned about remuneration and his own life style instead of his preaching.
Is your Pastor more concerned about feeding themselves instead of feeding their sheep? I know the church is to give the pastor a livable wage or salary, and they are to even give him "double honor" if he ministers well, and the pastor is to live of the gospel. But when the balance becomes too great towards "feathering his own nest" instead of tending to his charge, then the pastor is not what he is supposed to be.
Beware when your pastor ...
2. Drives away people instead of gathering them.
What is a bad sign is when the pastor delights or accepts driving people away when there is no need to do so. For example, the pastor is sarcastic or bitter or sharp with his words when he could have said the same thing in a different way and not offend. The offense must always be between the individual and God, not the pastor and the individual. The pastor shows them God's word and they may get offended or repent and follow God's will.
Beware when your pastor's ...
3. Leadership style is marked with cruelty and force.
"Force" here means excessive force. "Cruelty" means to break apart, to break down ones spirit. The idea is that the bad pastor is somebody who gets his will done no matter what. He is very forceful, and reserves all right for himself. Seldom is he ever wrong (in his own eyes), and even when he is wrong, he will ignore it and wants all others to ignore his errors, adhering absolute loyalty to his "always right" way.
Posted by Dmitri at 6:21 PM
Saturday, August 29, 2009
First Date Rules
1. DO talk about religion and politics.
I don't mind taking about religion or politics, I think it's interesting and a good way to learn about someone. If it turns into an argument or you really disagree with each other, no biggie, you can move on. I think most rational adults should be able to have a casual conversation on these topics without getting too heated. You may also find out if you are dating a NUT!
Don't sidestep potentially touchy subjects — a chat about the day's biggest headlines can lead to a passionate discussion or a fired-up debate, both of which can make sparks fly. (Can we say heated sex!) And what better way to show off your smarts? If you feel like you're getting into dangerous territory, propose that you agree to disagree ... and continue the discussion on date #2. (If there is one)
2. DON'T talk about your ex.
Talking about your ex-boyfriends or girlfriends ...it will kill any chances of a second date.
Airing your dirty laundry will only make you seem insecure at best ... petty and a little crazy at worst.
3. DO keep it present-tense.
Just talk about what you're doing now, what you're looking forward to, and what your goals are for the future.
Don't dwell on the past! Talk about what excites you about the future, whether it's next weekend's movie release or your long-term career plans. Everyone has a past, but focusing on the future makes you seem like a positive, happy person — an instant draw when you're chatting up someone you're interested in.
4. DON'T just talk — listen.
Express interest and curiosity in what the other person has to say. Treat him/her as though he/she is someone with whom you'd like to be a good friend. The bonus? This gives you a great deal of information. If you expend a great deal of time, effort, and attention getting to know this person, and it does little or nothing for you, then it probably won't do a whole lot for you down the line.
Posted by Dmitri at 9:17 PM
Thursday, August 27, 2009
1. Fight (a little). Getting your grrs out keeps small annoyances from snowballing.
2. Walk hand in hand. Even just to your car after an evening at Waffle House.
3. Compliment each other. This one's a daily to-do, if you can. There's no nice thing that's too small to mention: his excellent taste in music, the way he always opens the door for you — it's all worth a verbal love tap. And he will swoon.
4. Make love (obviously). But also ...
5. Have generous sex. You need at least one sexual connection a week that's all about pleasing the other person. (Dear busy people: Feel free to multitask and make this the sex from before. Same goes for this next one ...)
6. Sleep together before work. Put down the straightening iron and heat things up this way: "Weekday morning sex is the secret sauce in a relationship,"
7. Get into bed and ... sleep. "Sometimes the best thing a couple can do to ignite their passion for each other is sleep,"
8. Let something go. Argue over the stuff that matters, but once a week let him (and yourself) off the hook for things that don't: Yes, he chews his popcorn loud. No, it won't kill you.
9. Laugh really hard. Laughter is a relationship's Krazy Glue: It bonds you. Uninspired? Fast-forward to the chest-waxing scene in The 40-Year-Old Virgin
... Once a Month
10. Be do-gooders. Volunteering together (even just helping a friend move) bonds you because you're ID-ing
11. Do something scary. Been together a while? A pounding heart mimics the rush of brand-new love
12. Talk about money. Whether it's "Should we open a joint account?" or just, "Hey, let's split the bill tonight."
13. Brag publicly about him: his fearless pursuit of the mouse in your kitchen, the armful of hydrangeas he surprised you with, the raise he landed even in this economy. Surely once a month you can think of something that'll make him blush in front of your friends. He'll probably get you back too.
14. Declare something "this stays in Vegas." A silly nickname, or a crazy bedroom mishap. Share something intimate, then pull the couple bubble around you tightly.
15. Be the man. Not literally, but if your guy always initiates dates, romance, whatever, take the lead for once.
16. Disappear together. Hike somewhere AT&T can't find you (and thus your mother, your boss and his needy friend Bob can't find you either). No woods? Any time spent totally alone together — a long drive, even — will do the trick.
17. Disappear alone. We're not advocating game-playing, exactly. But in this world of 24/7 availability, it can be good for your relationship to each have some solo time. Afterward, you'll feel recharged, like the free-spirited single girl he fell for once upon a time.
18. Go to a party! And mingle separately. It screams confidence and makes the after-party rehash even sweeter.
19. Have sex some way you've never had it before. A worthy challenge, whether you've been together 10 days or 10 years. Try a new position or play out a fantasy. Doesn't matter whether it's really new to you, as long as it's new to you as a couple.
... Once a Year
20. Build a doghouse. Or restore a Firebird.
21. Now get the dog. Or at least a plant. Anything that'll grow with your love.
22. Say the tough thing. The dark family secret. The crazy career dream. If you can't confess to your significant other, then who? (Hey, you think Barack never said to Michelle way back when, "This may sound nuts, but I think I want to be president someday"?)
23. Cancel Valentine's Day and invent your own lovey-dovey holiday. Lobsterfest 2009, anyone?
24. Fall apart. You can't schedule this. But it's important that you each know, via experience, that you can completely, utterly lose your grip — weep over a bad haircut, threaten to leave your job after a nutso day, have a wrenching fight with your mom — and not lose each other.
25. Don't. Get. Up. At least once a year, break open some bubbly, disable the Wi-Fi, and don't get out of bed for the weekend.
26. Take him to a game. Enough said!
27. Re-kiss your first kiss. All timid and hopeful ... and wonderful.
28. Write each other. A love note
29. Think back on all the reasons you fell for him, whether you've dated for a year or a decade. Some will be big (his extra-dry sense of humor); some will be small (his love of argyle). Make sure you tell him, and remind yourself. Hello, butterflies! There you are again.
... And Once In a Lifetime
30. Get lost together in a foreign country.
31. Damn the cost and go do the dream.
32. Get intimate someplace you might be discovered.
33. Suffer through food poisoning together.
34. Go to each other's "fun" high school reunions.
35. Pay off the mortgage!
36. Come back from the brink of a breakup even stronger.
37. Together, convince a skeptic pal to believe in love.
38. Have a poor phase. Maybe a rich phase, too.
39. Count the stars. Know your love is one in a billion
Posted by Dmitri at 4:01 PM